Dear Joseph,
I fully understand your problem and the difficulties you are facing. Being teased and discriminated always gives us a hard feeling. Here are some tips for you to solve your problem.
Firstly, I want you to think carefully if you are really overweight. Are you being obese? If not, then it’s not your problem. It’s THEIR problem only. They are just making use of an excuse to ill-treat you and enjoy seeing you suffer.
However, if your answer is yes, maybe, it’s a good idea to lose weight. I’m not meaning that you should be discriminated just because you are overweight, and you need to make changes in order to pleasethe bullies. But the thing I’d like to point out is that their teasing is actually a reminder for you to care more about your body shape and health. Actually, being overweight is not good for our health but indicates that you may have an unhealthy lifestyle and eating habits. Actually, obesity can increase the risk of having many serious illnesses including heart disease. Therefore, it would be good for you to make changes by yourself first. Having eating habits and doing adequate sports, you can lose your weight gradually and lead a much healthier lifestyle.
Second, I think you don’t need to care so much about others’ opinions. The bullies’ impolite laughter and teasing are actually nothing. Everyone has different characteristics which may appeal to different people. However, does it mean that the people with better looks can discriminate against the so called comparatively less nice looking ones? No! Everyone has their unique points in terms of appearance and more importantly, the inner beauty. I’m sure that you also have your special inner beauty.Right? Remember, you live for yourself, not for others. Therefore, no matter how they tease you, you don’t need to care about them. If you show that you don’t mind hearing their unkind words and won’t have any hard feelings about them, they will gradually stop teasing you since they find teasing you no longer funny.
Besides, as I’ve mentioned before, everyone has their own unique points which appeal to different people. Therefore, I’m sure that there must be some of your classmates, who will appreciate you. It’s just that they haven’t known you much. So, keep being nice and friendly to your classmates wholeheartedly. If you keep on appearing gentle and kind from the bottom of your heart, they will finally realize how good you are, and will be eager to make friends with you. Also, friends should share the same hobbies and interests. Therefore, try to find some friends who have similar interests and thoughtsas yours. Then you can try to take an active role to approach them. Gradually, they will find pleasure talking and making friends with you.
I hope that my advice can help you deal with your problem. Remember, the main point is that you are willing to take the first step to talk to others and be more active. You will finally find some good friends. Hope that the enjoyable school life will come to you soon!
Chris Wong