Due to the differences in ages and points of view, many misconceptions arise between parents and their children, resulting in deterioration of their relationship. We should firstly find out the major misconceptions in order to change the situation.
First of all, the biggest misconception between adults and youngsters is that parents always believe they know what the teens’ feelings are. They love to say “we were young once too”. They think that youngsters’ feelings are just the same as theirs in the old days. However, this is not the case. Different people have different thoughts on the same issue, so adults should not ignore others’ feelings. Besides, they love to say “this is for your own good”. Parents usually plan everything for their kids and suppose what they did are good to the children. But they never consult the teens’ opinion before making any decisions for them. Finally, have they ever noticed that teenagers may not be willing to do what they require them to do? In short, parents are quite selfish and they seldom consider youngsters’ feelings. Therefore, misconceptions easily crop up.
Another misconception is that parents are too concerned about the importance of scores all the time. Parents rarely appreciate teens’ efforts put in the process of achieving good results. Yet, they would only focus on the final scores or rankings. If the adolescents’ results are not up to their standard, parents will think their kids do not work hard or they are not serious about their studies. Actually, grown-ups may not understand that the kids have really tried their very best. Adults do not care about how hard they study. Thus, teenagers will then feel dejected and discouraged since they are not praised for their hard preparation for examinations at all.
No doubt, something must be done because misconceptions will lead to conflicts between teenagers and their parents. Parents can try to communicate with their kids in a peaceful manner so that ideas and opinions can be shared among them. Moreover, parents should help their children build up their confidence and interest in studies. To do so, parents can show approval of and recognition for their efforts paid. It is essential for parents to praise their kids often if they perform well. Furthermore, both adults and teens must consider more from the other side’s points of view so as to minimize misunderstandings. When the consensus is achieved, there will be fewer misconceptions. The gap between two sides will be bridged soon if both sides are willing to take a step forward and understand each other.
All in all, misconceptions between adults and teenagers are very common in many families when parents always neglect their children’s feelings and efforts paid on their learning. Communication is the best way to tackle the problem. If both parties can take each other’s feelings into account, the gap between them will be bridged.